In Japan, pretty much everyone knows what I am.
acceptance of competing means of social ordering and control, especially consensual patterns of governance, rest in part on their relatively weak sense of transcendent norms as moral imperatives.
John Owen Haley
Authority without Power
Law and the Japanese Paradox
(p. 15). Kindle Edition
This makes managing me somewhat easier.
If a person in Japan is caught unawares, and something untoward should occur, the person is quickly informed, or the person's behaviour is corrected by someone other than me. They know how to behave around me because they are familiar with the legend of the Son of Heaven. Also, they have centuries of culture. In America, with the exception of basketball and jazz music, we don't appear to have culture.
Moreover, unlike Western or other Eastern cultures, nothing in Japan is objective.
Japan differs from both East Asian and Western societies in its lack of a broadly shared belief in transcendent, universally applicable moral values or standards.
Ibid.
Everything that happens in Japan is subjective. Relative to time, place & perception. Every reaction is not governed by an outdated moral code.
People don't get what they deserve dude. Some people get stuff that nobody deserves. Sounds like you are trying to justify what can't be justified.